A Recovering Nice Guy

Here's a story i would like to share with you guys, which i find it interesting.

“What Happened to All the Nice Guys?”
Date: 2007-11-19, 3:52AM PST

I see this question posted with some regularity in the personals section, so I thought I’d take a minute to explain things to the ladies out there that haven’t figured it out.

What happened to all the nice guys?

The answer is simple: you did.

See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He’d tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn’t feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were ****ing treated you.

At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were “just friends.” Besides, he totally wasn’t your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn’t know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.

Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you werent dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren’t the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you’re single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, “What happened to all the nice guys?”

Well, once again, you did.

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive “just-a-” friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren’t really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you’re upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he’d have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be.

Fact is, now, he’s probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I’m sorry that it took the complete absence of “nice guys” in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.

So, if you’re looking for a nice guy, here’s what you do:

1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass.
3.) Take a look at what’s right in front of you and grab ahold of it.

I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don’t really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.

If you were five years younger.

So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you’ve ****ed yourself over. You’re getting older, after all. It’s time to excise the bull**** and deal with reality. You didn’t want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn’t ****ing want you, now.

Sincerely,

A Recovering Nice Guy

To all the nice guys out there… Stay true to urself even if it means u cant get the gal. This is wad i call MAN!

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Interesting ? i certainly think so. have a good read :) kinda felt bad for not updating my well-bring to those who are "concern" hahaa.. I'm feeling great ! my wound have recovered and stitches have been removed :) i'm a free man to go again !

Replies

Thanks for all the concerns :) I'm really very grateful.
I'm recovering pretty well, no worries my friends. currently walking around with a swollen right eye. Recovering at the most optimal condition, hopefully will be able to get back to work tomorrow.

but anyway really wish to thanks qiutin for coming down this far to visit, though i look seriously weird !

To kelly: Linked ! it's rather easy to leave a comment, just put you like it or not :X hahaha.. it's ok if you just read silently either way is fine :) don't mention it k, what are friends for ? :) of course I'm, you are a rare guess ! recovery at the most optimal condition

To Roxi: Getting well soon :) no worries about the scar k ? good news is eye brow will be blocking it and the scar would be small because of the stitching

To jiamin: Ya i will, fortunately I'm not disfigured ! When you are free k ?

To hazel: Is not that i don't wanna meet up, i thought you are having your mid-year now ? and this injury, doubt it will be anytime soon :(

To anika: hey thanks ! didn't know you still visit me, i will take EXTRA care I'm sure of that

To shihui: just ome ? hahaha.. i'm not dead yet la .. i still can reply :P

To YASU: Ya lucky spot to have a cut 0.0 hahaa.. doctor says the scar would be small because of the stitching.

To Pinkalicious: Thanks cous :) your dearest cous is recovering already.

misfortune

Had an accident which cause a very deep cut on my right eye brow, currently having MC till Tuesday,

went to TTSH and got 6 stitches and 4 anesthetic injection on the wounded area before stitching is done.

WARNING below picture might be a little gross

hopefully i would recover soon. as for scar ? YES the doctor said there will be scar but fortunately my eye brow would cover it nicely.

p.s. A lesson learn :(

Songs

Despite not blogging about myself. Here's some song i truly enjoyed, hope you like it too.





p.s. i will be back on my feet soon !

Sudden pause of blog

This will be quite sudden, for i've decided to pause my blog.

it's not that anything have had happened lately that made me announce this.

Just wanted to give myself a break, lately have been experiencing some changes within myself. Very unexplainable to certain extent, have not found an answer for that therefore have decided to pause and take a break.

if there's anyone with good advice/suggestion to life, please do send me an email to me at "gamer_at55@hotmail.com" i would be truly grateful for any of your kind advice/suggestions, and hopefully some might work for me.

i will be back, but not too soon :(

p.s. i'm contented with my present lifestyle,  but unsatisfied with certain aspect of life.

more soups for the peasants

Absolutely enjoyed my weekend as always ! ever since i first stepped into National Service, weekends has become one of the most looked forward to list ranking at NO. 3 which is like omg !? if i were to miss one day of my weekend i could probably end up moody for the previous 5 good days have already done it's job of killing me mentally, spiritually and physically ! and what more is the next 5 days that lies ahead !

Had a small be-lated kinda celebration for Wee Soo AKA Lao Po with Pui Tung AKA Silence is Gold AKA ever changing nickname at Yuki & Yaki ( Marina Square ) Had teppanyaki, steamboat and Ice Cream teppanyaki.

Our loving photo ! *puke

And my Silence is Gold buddy ^^ just look at the smile ! so cheerful :)

Our mess (ice cream: White- Vanilla favour , Brown - Chocolate favour, Green - Green Tea favour

Ain't they 2 lovely :) - Ass bestie you better get your ASS BACK HERE ! ;p
Let's end the BFF trend and start the BBF(Best Buddies Forever) !

Kbox session ! and it was a long awaited one ! sang till 3 at Ang Mo Kio Kbox and went back home :) everyone was really high and tung had definitely improved his singing skills compared to the previous trip.

My constipated face XD
Us in the middle of the night 3 a.m at Ang Mo Kio Kbox
Duet
Happy birthday Lao Po !

Went ice skating with Wei Jian AKA B*tch at Kallang Leisure park, took bus 853 there and swear that i will not take 853 there again *which most likely will be taking it again this week :X"

Found out that they were also renting hockey skates at kallang for additional of 2 dollars ! kiss normal skates good bye ;p
Despite being first time on ice for Wei Jian he did great ! didn't fall once and learned how to skate at normal speed ! talented or it wasn't the first time ?
most probably will be skating this week again with Wei Jian but after work, so any one interested?
Met up with the rest of my tekong buddies with included Gerard and Guoce (Si Rong was on duty unfortunately) had a simple dinner together at Cineleisure and went to Parkline for some Dota :)
Was too lazy to take out my camera so not much photo :(
but anyway here's some !

starts tekong buddy meet up

Thanks Guoce , my skinny looks great :X

Supper Near my place with guoce because we planned to dota till late
meepok dry ! OMG .. hearts*

Last but not least ! Elizabeth *Smelly* showed me this photo and said that the guy below was HANDSOME ! any comments for her ? please leave a tag :) would like to know the different perspectives

I'm starting to miss japan :(


More Photos at My Facebook

P.S. i wanna kick my ass bestie in her butt :( but she's not in Singapore

A date with B

Wondering why i name the title as "a date with B"?

Marvel no further, i shall name her B for now :)
went out for movie yesterday right after work, but thanks to the rain i was half drench before i even reached Cineleisure.

Got 2 tickets for "Shutter" and went in soon after she came.

The Cinema was only filled with merely 10 people, first thought was "Are we in the wrong cinema?". "no i don't think we are" assured by B. The movie wasn't as scary as expected for the very good comments given for the original "Shutter" was far beyond the remake version, well it's not really that bad ? hahahaha.. because both of us so happen to have missed the original movie itself :)
well actually its not about the movie it's always the person who is with you during the show that makes every show special despite the movie is a real sucky one.

Went to"My Mum's Cuisine" at Paragon after the show ended, because i kinda missed local food so order "curry beef noodles", "bruise seafood beancurd and she order "seafood bee hoon" the taste of the food ? i would say the content of our conversation was far more tastier then the food we had.

Took a stroll down to Orchard Tower to see whats going on there, for we have heard some very interesting stuff about the place, well first impression of it ? A shopping center filled with low cut, bare back and short skirt ladies/ lady boys so to speak? was really funny, a few of them* winked at us while we walk passed them XD "Thanks ah B" if you wasn't there with me I'm afraid i would have been one of the many targeted guys/victims to be hunted down by them ! 0.0

Seems like the foreigner doesn't mind being hooked up by them, or maybe it was just my Asian side reacting to this sending out a signal ,telling that it was just not right. What ever the case might be I'm not really interested to find out how it feels!

Was a great short meet up with her :) hope to see her soon enough ? thanks to my busy/messed up schedule i have no idea when to meet who and who to meet when.
but one thing for sure i miss my ass bestie ! and my tekong friends ! those ass holes where are they ! :X

Japan Trip !

WARNNING THE BELOW CONTENT YOU ARE ABOUT TO READ WILL AT LEAST MAKE YOU SPEND THE NEXT NEAR 10 MINUTES OF YOUR TIME
But still please do read on :D

so much to blog ! but always giving excuses to blog later.

i know i know ! haven been having much content in my blog lately well not because i don't have any, its just because I'm lazy :X

Have been going on trips as you can see from my previous posts, really enjoyed all of them despite some minor upsets and arguments during the trips but all was fine and easily forgotten with a smile :) well we are out to have fun anyway right ? haha..

alright lets talk about my japan trip since everyone have been asking how was it.
There's only one way to describe it I LOVE JAPAN AND I WANNA VISIT AGAIN SOON !!!
It's my first time being so far away from home without my parents *school trips excluded* and also my very first trip to Japan. Simple words to describe I REALLY MISS SINGAPORE , my PARENTS, my FRIENDS and my BED(I'm sure my bed misses me as much too)

First day in Japan, touched down on Tokyo Narita Airport at 2:00 pm local time (Sg: 3:00pm)
The air was fresh and cooling, the place was clean and neat very similar to what i had in mind.
took our Luggages and process onto finding our way to our hostel which was at Takashimadaira
the other end of Narita, it really took us some time just finding the location we need to go.

Subway Map of Tokyo

As a Singapore for like 19 plus years we wasn't used been used to such complicated subway lines for ours only had 3 lines.
let me guide you through how to get to Takashimadaira, First buy a ticket from Narita to Nippori then get a ticket to Ueno then alight and take JR line to Sugamo from then take the Mita line to Takashimadaira as easy as it sounds it works in a total opposite way. First we wasn't used to their language and so are they, using English to communicate was out needless to say using Chinese was not a workable option to, haha so we ended up using simple English and hand signs rather funny but it did work !! see people see the power of sign language !
Reached our hostel and unpacked our stuff for the day as it was already nearing 6:00 *which for your information was already night time* the official sunset time for Japan is 5:50p.m unlike Singapore which is 6.30p.m .

Explored around our hostel and came to a conclusion that majority of the workers are much younger then Singapore ! and also pretty looking girls XD even in Macdonald. Had a supper in Mac, yes once again thanks to our sign language we got our meals ! the room we had wasn't very big but was 1 room per person something like an apartment with the living room and the kitchen all in one we each have a toilet in our room but the shower was a share one located just beside the kitchen. Ending the night with some Japanese TV shows and a day of schedule to finish for the next morning :)

Woke up early on the second day and saw Solomon talking to An Ang Mo which we later know him as Ryan 22 years old from America :D who came over because his wife was teaching English in Japan, he was a soldier back then ! cool !! and survive a bullet shot to his leg by a 9 year old kid in Afghanistan 0.0 wasn't kinda in our schedule XD hahaha as a polite Singaporean we asked him to tag along with us if he wanted to :)

Visited Shinjuku then to Harajuku heres some photos of the shine at harajuku :)

Enterance

That's Ryan !! side of the picture

too much to tell so shall jut round up all the places we been to.

Day 1 : Narita , Sugamo and Takashimadaira.

Day 2 : Shinjuku , Harajuku and Shibuya.

Day 3 : Ueno , Akihabara.

Day 4 : Shibuya *again for shopping.

Day 5 : Maihama * Tokyo Disneyland.

Day 6 : Harajuku *cosplay day and Roppongi.

Day 7: Narita Airport to Singapore :)

Been to Harajuku for the Cosplay and Gothic street culture

Harajuku Gate

The cosplayers

And the cute Singers at Harajuku :) got their photo and autograph !

And the CANNOT BE MISS raman ! so weird having to use the venting machine to order your meal XD
The very pretty Sakura at Ueno Park !!

You have got to be there to witness the beauty of them !

A very close up view of its beauty !

Tokyo Disneyland !! the dream place to be for all children for at least during my childhood *maybe children nowadays don't watch as much cartoon as we do thanks to computer and MAPLE STORY AKA wasting time * in my opinion.

Grand castle of Disneyland !

Acting as one of the character, offering glass shoe to Cinderella :)

The Real Cinderella and her Prince !

Puto and ME !

That's Beauty and the Beast Princess :) too bad couldn't have a photo with her because of the crowd

Jailed with Solomon

That's my house ! wheres Dale (Esther)?

Pooh bear house ! didn't went in for it takes 2 hours to queue just to take a look of whats inside !

Bad/good luck for us, we finished watching the Parade but started raining right after ! 0.0 we had to leave before the fireworks as we were tired and drenched :( and the temperature was dropping !! like to 6°C !

After Ryan left we got a new roommate name Guidon*if i spell it right* from Germany. he taught
us how to play this poker game called Texas Hold'em no limit.
We will be catching up soon when he's in our town like this coming june or july:)

For your information those mickey gloves are mine :D

Lastly a little details of Tokyo tower it was build during 1958 to symbolize its ascendancy as a global economic powerhouse and it's 332.6-meter-tall Despite being 8.6 meters taller than the Eiffel Tower (will be taller if the tower's TV antenna is included)
This Red giant was a beauty in our eyes ! you have to be there to get a hold of how huge and magnificence it is !

Just imagine couple going there for a visit ! :D
i bet Eiffel Tower look something similar to this
Soon it was time for home ! despite staying/living and always complaining about how bored and small was Singapore i was kinda looking forward going back ! weird !

But i'm going to miss the Special burger that Singapore would never have !

MC PORK !

Back at the Airport we had our very last bowl of raman :( and saw this really ridiculous text on the immigration form ! direct translation !

Does that mean we are Alien ? hahaa ! sounds like an invasion for me XD

Leg Space for Economy class finally !! well we were really lucky to have the first row sits :) good bye Japan ! we will be missing you ! back to Singapore !

Smile. !

Smiles catch up with friends have local food !! omg all that i haven been doing !
and also !
work work work again :( hahahhaa.. something that i don't look forward to !
here are more PHOTO taken during my trip !
Jap 1 , Jap 2 and Jap 3
Enjoy !

P.S. WHERE'S MY ASS BESTIE !! I DEMAND HER TO COME BACK AT ONCE ! :( she's in Amsterdam now :(